First day of the New Year and I will welcome it with a post about us…writers and loners. It’s not a rule but I think it is something that happens a lot. And in my case, I fit the profile. So…writer and loner, loner and writer, are two separate things or there is a connection?
I was always a loner and by that I don’t mean that I don’t enjoy going out with friends or company of others, but there is this feel I have. I don’t know how to explain it, but when I am alone I feel at peace. It’s beautiful and amazing to do things with others and spend time with them and enjoy all kind of things, but there must be a part in the day, where you have time for yourself, to do your things. And I desperately need this time! People demand too much and not everyone can deal with it. I am not exaggerating, there a people who want to be with others all day long for various reasons and that can be a serious matter.
When I was a kid I enjoyed playing and being alone and I was OK. I didn’t even ask for food. I was happy! Later though, I wanted someone with me all the time and I always had, but I deep down I knew that I was a loner. Those few years I spent being all day with a friend, may where good, but it wasn’t me. I had a notebook and I wrote stuff that I didn’t share with anyone, even if I had the chance to do it. I hadn’t the need to share it with a friend or family. And when the need faded away…I knew that I had found myself.
Being able to accept who you are and not losing time and energy pretending something you are not, is crucial. I don’t do things only because the rest of the world does them and I know that they may think I am not living my life or that it isn’t good that don’t go dancing as often as they think is “normal”. Guess what…I do these things, and I enjoy them as much as everyone else. The difference is that I don’t need to go out or talk with a friend in order to be happy. I am happy with the life I am living and we can’t define another’s people happiness.
For me writing and lonely are two separate things. I start writing not because I was alone and I didn’t was alone because I was writing. Be careful though, I believe that in order to write, somewhere inside you there might be the bug of loneliness even in a small amount. I know that you may think I am wrong and feel free to tell me otherwise. This is just my opinion but to my mind, a writer is a bit of a loner but a loner isn’t for sure a writer.
I hope my point of view is clear and I want to hear from you too. Have a Happy New Year.